How To Leave Your Stressful Job, And Still Get Paid
This isn't the first time I've wanted to write specifically around this title, but I wanted to offer a fresher perspective on it all.
I still believe that the stressful jobs we know them to be today, can be left behind, all whilst still getting that well earned salary.
Furthermore, all without throwing our laptops out the window and going out in a blaze of glory (as much as that might seem tempting at certain points of the day!)
Stress Is Part Of Everyday Life
We've all experienced the kind of days where we've longed for some peace & quiet, a spa day, a holiday, or just 10 minutes alone, away from all the demands and pressure from the expectations around us.
We've more than likely also all experienced days where we foreshadow the seemingly inevitable levels of stress we're about to encounter, or even spent evenings replaying those scenarios in our heads, long after they've ended.
I'm not here to show anyone how to live a life free of stress. It just doesn't exist.
If I'm being honest, I don't imagine that kind of life would be all that enjoyable either!
From where I'm standing, we have two options.
We can be fearful of it, or embrace it. Either way, it's coming.
A Tale Of Two Stresses
What's not discussed all that much, is that there are actually two different types of stress.
We have something called Eustress, and the more familiar Distress.
A good old fashioned tale of good and evil on the surface.
A “stressful” situation that creates positive thinking despite challenge.
A “stressful” situation that feels overwhelming, creating negative thoughts and an assumption that things are unlikely to end well.
A little bit of stress when met with the right frame of mind, is actually a great thing.
It’s what energises us, allowing us to rise to challenges and focus on the task in hand.
The physiological markers are similar regarding both types of stress.
Increased heart rate, short and sharp breathing, possible sweating etc.
So, what determines whether our jobs are a Eustress, or Distress?
Well, that’s all down to how YOU perceive that job, and the tasks and situations associated with it..
How Do You Turn Your "Stressful" Job Into A "Not So Stressful" Job?
Here's one of my favourite ever quotes around the topic of stress.
“Job stress comes from the demands of work, exceeding the workers belief in their own ability to cope with the demands.”
Now, I'm not for one second expecting a quote from the internet to all of a sudden reduce the levels of stress a person might face, but it is a quote that really can give us food for thought.
After all, it kinda makes sense?
If we are fully confident in our capabilities regarding a task, and have little doubt around our ability to complete said task to the required standard, then why should we find ourselves distressed, fearing a potentially negative outcome?
What evidence is there that supports the notion you should be fearful?
Perhaps the key is in reminding ourselves of what is to be gained from each task? What lies waiting at the other side once completed?
Basically, what's in it for us?
We're not simply arriving to work to survive, we're there to thrive!
Of course, I'm not naive. I've delivered talks in office environment with high pressure and high stakes.
It's a competitive world, and we're only human at the end of the day, so it would seem pretty unrealistic to see every single situation as a positive challenge and simply get on with it.
So.. what next?
When Looking On The Bright Side Doesn't Work..
One of the major differences between Eustress and Distress, is what happens around it.
The ability to recover back to a much calmer and relaxed state is a lot quicker in situations of positive stress.
I'll be honest, I'm no psychologist, but I do have some thoughts on why this might be.
The major one being that things we see as positive stresses, don't necessarily linger on our minds before, or afterwards.
They come, we experience, they go.
However one of my own personal shortcomings, is I'm a bit of a worrier.
And for me, this is where they differ.
Short, intense bursts of any kind of stress isn't the problem.
It's only when they become long term, and we fail to retreat back to a more Para-sympathetic state afterwards, that they become a problem.
When this is the case, then I wrote another bit on some easy methods you can take on managing from this kind of stress.
You can read that by clicking the link at the bottom of this page!
Leaving Your Stressful Job And Still Getting Paid..
Of course, this isn't as simple as flicking a switch and suddenly we're cruising down easy street.
All I wanted to achieve with this post was to offer a perspective on what we know as stress.
Allowing you the opportunity for yourself to decide the intensity of the stress you face, and how it will impact you long after the stressful situation has subsided.
If you’re reading this now and find yourself currently worried or stressed about something work related, ask yourself..
Am I capable of coping with this task?
The honest answer to that simple question could be all the difference between whether or not the stress you encounter, threatens to hold you back, or gives you the focus and energy required to make sure you no longer have to work in that “stressful” job, but continue to get paid!
And if all else fails, we can take steps to ensure that the work stress we experience, is left behind at 5pm!