• Michael Mclaren

The One Reason Why Seeing A Counsellor Was The Best Decision I've Ever Made. ☝🏼

"There sometimes needs to be a breakdown, before we can experience a breakthrough"

I heard this phrase last week at a wellness talk that I was attending, and it's been on my mind a lot since.

I can't help but thinking how true it seems to be, and it's caused me to do yet even more reflecting on the past 18 months.

It's something I feel can be related to any area of our lives. Whether it be what we want to achieve with regards to our health, our bodies, our careers or our mindsets, we all strive for that big breakthrough.

That feeling that we're making progress, and that we're well on our way to becoming happy.

Yet, that feeling eludes a lot of us. It did so for myself for such a long time.

I've spoken before about what the consequences of that were, and how a bit of insecurity about carrying some extra body fat, soon became something much more potentially damaging.

This all led to me taking one of the biggest steps outside my comfort zone that I've ever taken. Taking the big step of calling on a professional and finally admitting that I just had no idea where to go next.

It was the clarity and peace of mind that Portugal brought to me, that finally gave me the courage to seek professional help.

And, ff I learned ONE through my time seeing a counseller last year, it was this.. ⬇️

Maybe you already know everything you need to know..


You just don't know it yet..

Looking out there for more answers and more knowledge will only get you so far.

But there may come a point when we need to change the question, and change who we ask.


There's a time and a place for asking Google, or asking a coach..

But one of the most impactful ways to break through a plateaux and take the first step to creating a positive self image, is to ask yourself the questions.

What do you really want❓

What's currently stopping you❓

Why do you want it❓

What do you expect it to do for you❓

What do YOU believe is actually possible❓

Just to name the a few.

There are the kind of questions we sometimes need to ask ourselves, before we start searching for answers out there.

We have the answers that we need to truly make progress.

It's not glamorous.

It's maybe not something you want to share with anyone.

And sometimes, it can be uncomfortable.

But perhaps there needs to be a breakdown before we can experience a breakthrough.

This won't be done in a 1 hour session, or overnight.

It took me months and months worth of 1-2-1 counselling sessions last year, to really understand my answers to some of these questions.

And even now, I don't have all the answers. Not yet anyways, but I don't believe it's about ever having the answer to everything.

Maybe the time spent acknowledging these questions and coming up with potential reasons and answers is enough.

Enough to give you an understanding of where you are at this moment, and where you need to go in order to achieve what you want to achieve?

My breakdown helped me realise one thing.

Which is that, I don't want to tell people what to do to lose weight, gain weight etc.

I fully feel that my purpose is to help people become empowered to take charge of their own self image.

Develop the thinking and perspective that allows them to constantly make progress and have the ability to adapt and remain in full control of their own progress.

So, after all that..

What’s your purpose?

Why do you strive so much to be a certain weight, or look a certain way?

Why is being healthy so important to you?

What does increased confidence do for you?

I could go on all day with this stuff, but nobody wants to hear me ramble on, so I’ll wrap it up!

You already have a lot of the important answers, you maybe just don’t know it yet.

But, when you do, everything opens up. And all of a sudden, those same limitations and unrealistic expectations that you have been placing on yourself, will suddenly appear not so intimidating.

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